This is the collage of stillness. The busier we are the more difficult it is to see what is true. This pandemic is a time of stillness. Lots of things are becoming clear, and seeing them can be uncomfortable. Then there is the isolation. We are on Zoom talking to people more than ever, but how do we feel when we finish our Zoom call: filled up or drained? For me the difference is in how deep the conversation went. I am creating a group that initially meets over Zoom, and later in person. It be a group where we listen deeply to each other, called “True to Life” group.
The group will meet Thursday mornings from 10 AM – noon, starting June 11th. There be no charge. Ideally, we will have 7 participants. If more people are interested, we may create a second group at a different time. Please email me if you would like to be a part of the group!
May we be true to life for the rest of our days on this beautiful earth.
This is a collage I made last week. I call it my guide card. The solidity of the bus and the certainty of the maps contrast with the unknown in the upper left-hand corner. That unknowingness is where we are right now in this pandemic.
Not knowing is really where we always are. We just THINK we know. The bus can break down and the maps contain paper streets to protect their copyrights.
Facing the unknown, on the other hand, brings up anxiety and grief. Many have lost loved ones. Most have lost income. All have lost freedom.
Anxiety and grief ask for the tender comforting that a crying child wants. We each have the capacity to be that comfort for ourselves. We can rest in not knowing and just let it be for a little while. We can feed the strong part of ourselves so that when it is time to act we will be ready.
Experience Magazine published an essay highlighting the work of Bhakti Watts:
Many times, doulas solicit anecdotes and shared memories from people in the patient’s life so the patient can see their impact on others. Bhakti Watts, a Seattle-based death doula, is frequently asked to help set up reconciliations so that a dying person can make amends or let go of a long-held grudge. She’s also helped people craft last “traditional” experiences. She recently stepped in as a party planner for a cancer patient who knew he wouldn’t be able eat or speak down the road.
“We invited his friends to a wine bar and had all kinds of food,” she says. “You might think it would be hard, but people loved being there. And it was a chance for him to say goodbye to people he cared about while he still felt well.”